Instead of asking why me...ask God to help you in seeing every situation or a person through His eyes and not yours. It seems that the best way to minister to people isn't to preach at them but rather to share with them how God used you or helped you through a difficult and painful situation. Pain and struggles seem to be more effective in growing one up than when every thing is hunky dory and God is to recieve glory and not me. Really what have I done or what can I do that can top God...nothing. There is a reason for everything that happens and only God has the answers.